The Tribe we Find

That time 5 years ago when I released a Mini Study on Friendship, and you can still buy it on Amazon!

 

Have you ever thought about how you’ve come to find the women in your life? Stop for a moment and reflect on who you would call in a moment of great need. Who do you text when you need prayer, a favor, people in your corner? These people matter more than you realize. They are the reason you stay afloat many times whether we acknowledge it in the moment or not.

Jesus had a following (lots and lots of people who were all about His truth). He had a tribe of people He could teach more in-depth and lead more intimately. He had people He could count on in the twelve. He looked to them for support and pushed them to believe beyond what their upbringing had asked of them. Then He had the three. He let down His guard completely with them. I believe it is a great model for us. We can have that crowd of people we interact with regularly. Do some life with, say hi, and catch up with at church or in the grocery store. We can have a smaller group of people that we let in a little more and remember details about their life and ask them how we can pray and support them. We also need to have a “group of 12” kind of thing that we are being more honest than with the general public and these people are allowed to pour into us. They can challenge us and hold us to a higher standard. Then there is the three. Your inner most group. Your core tribe. I don’t think it has to be 3 but if it was good enough for Jesus…well, you get it. I have three girlfriends and my husband that serve in this most vulnerable of places in my life. I am as real as I can be with these people. Even if I know what is getting ready to come out of my mouth is unsavory, I will say it to these people. They know me as much as anyone on earth can know me. They also all serve the same loving God and operate in the Holy Spirit which unifies and emboldens us to speak truth in love to each other. It is a beautiful thing and I am grateful to have this. Seven years ago, I would not have said this. I was floundering to not only have these relationships, but to be vulnerable enough in them to reap a bountiful harvest from our conversations. So what changed? How am I where I am today? I have a few secrets to share that I hope encourage you if you are still on the journey to finding your tribe.

  1. Prayer

I will not waver in my strong opinion that I am sitting in the wealth of prized women friends today because I cried out to the Lord and He heard my prayer. I begged for women that I could learn from  and then for women that I could pour into. I asked for a few years for God to send me friends that would help me grow and encourage me and that I could in turn encourage them. Over the last decade He has connected me with SO many amazing women and I would not be who I am today without them. So pray, be specific and believe that He is for community and He will answer this prayer in His perfect timing. Which brings me to number two.

2. Patience

I hate to bring this up, but it is part of the journey for many of us and I was no exception. I longed for true friendship, but in the desert time of waiting I leaned in and learned that I was missing a piece from God and He wanted to fill that before giving the human component. I see now what I could not see then. His timing is perfect and I am better for having waiting on Him.

3. Intentionality

Lastly, when I was given the connection with another woman, I intentionally put myself out there. Not all at once, wisdom, Dear Friend, to quote “Friends” I said share not scare. Be yourself in reasonable doses. There is a spirit check we need to do before going deep. Is this person safe, will they hold my vulnerability in confidence? Can I see myself building a friendship with them? Don’t take any old warm body as a bestie. Pray, and patiently seek the best for the relationship. Despite your great desire to connect to someone deeply, make sure you feel peace about them. But when you do, give that person your best. Be willing to share and bare their burdens as well. This takes intentionality—especially when we are busy with a family, work, etc.

If this is you and you are stuck in the desert, will you drop me a line and ask for prayer. I love praying for others and community is important to me, and I know it is important to God. Jesus modeled the need for others so we would know that it is important. He was great at show not simply tell.

Giving Credit: A Lesson in Gratitude

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The other day my son (11) and I were in the van alone. I find he is more chatty in those moments running from here to there than when we are at home. Thankfully, I have been aware of this for the past year and I have been using that time to check in. “How is school going? Any big projects? Anything cool happen at school today? How are you feeling about soccer these days?” etc., etc. He will usually give me more than one word answers when he isn’t competing with his sisters for my attention. Well, this particular conversation was one I will cherish as a mom for years to come. It started out randomly.

 

“Hey Mom, God was really kind to me today. He saved me from a bad grade.”

Okay! This was unprompted and I was all ears! He went on to explain how he had this big group project that he had been working on over the past week. Presentations were supposed to happen that day, but because they took so long his group got bumped to the following day. He explained that as he was listening to all the others, he noticed they did something extra that he learned was expected with the project. He said that because he learned this before they gave theirs, he was able to add it to his group project and he and his partner would now get a better grade for having that other aspect added to their project.

This story isn’t in and of itself that interesting, but I want to point out that his first response to this “happy coincidence” is to give God credit. This past year I have felt God highlighting to me how I need to train my kids to see God’s goodness in their life. Help them make the connection that God is good and He is good to them. This little story was a huge gift and I fought back tears as I realized God was giving goodness to me in showing me the work of the daily grind of raising my kids is paying off. We don’t bat 1,000 around here, but I take a win when I can. I sent up a shout of praise in my heart as my boy and I continued our conversation about giving God praise in everything…good or bad. He then blew my mind by agreeing that even when something bad happened (he lost his ipad for a few days) he could see God was making a way (he was grateful that he had enough money in his account to replace it if needed).  I mean I was a wreck by the end of this 4 minute car ride from one place to another.

So I ask, are you pursuing a life looking to connect all things to a way to praise God? Praising Him and having an attitude of gratitude takes practice and intentionality, but I can see it changing my son’s perception on life. I believe in the science behind this too. He is rewiring pathways in his brain and shaping his body’s response system. Simply giving God credit stirs our heart to praise Him. Praise opens our heart to trust and believe He will do it again.

Start the cycle today!

Ask God to help you see His goodness in all the things this Holiday season is about to throw your way. Even the hard/unexpected. Ask God, show me your goodness in this. Be open to a perspective shift.

 

Merry Christmas to all! Christ came and will continue to come for you, every day of your life.

 

We Write to Remember

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When my husband and I were dating, he took me to a chiropractic conference. It was one geared towards marketing a chiropractic office. I was in my (very) early twenties and it was my first business conference. I remember really leaning in when they started talking about affirmations. I believe they even made us all stand on the chair we were sitting in and repeat together the affirmation that was scrolling on the giant screen at the front of the large conference room. Although I was new to the world of chiropractic and even newer to the business side of it all, I felt the energy that filled the room. To see hundreds of adults standing on chairs and declaring powerful truths over their profession was something to behold!

In the last 13 years, I have been to a few different conferences for businesses of various types: chiropractic, writing, a home-based business I was a part of, as well as faith-based conferences. They all drive home a key point: your thought life is the keeper of your actions. It might be packaged in a completely different way depending on the common thread that brings the attendees together, but a major goal in each conference is to get you to think positively about the product you sell, the skill you have, and your ability to execute success.

This is a foundational truth that has biblical support. The Bible talks a lot about your thought life. We see characters who struggle with bouts of hopelessness and depression, but so often if you look at the big picture, they lived an amazing life. God showed up powerfully in their lives, yet their thoughts and mental power could still pull them into the pit. I bring this up for two reasons:

  1. You are not alone. From the greats to the least of these, we all have moments of weary thinking.
  2. Your thought life is incredibly important to evaluate and maintain.

One of my favorite examples of someone who had stinkin’ thinkin’ and still saw miracles was Elijah. He was cared for by ravens and still doubted that God saw him and met his needs! He displayed unshakeable faith in God by challenging the worshipers of Baal to a showdown of sorts between their god and his God. He even dumped water on his wood beforehand and God still consumed his offering in fire. (Side note: my favorite part of that story is when he trash talks the Baal worshipers by accusing their god of daydreaming or relieving himself! And that was BEFORE God showed up–talk about bravado!) The very next chapter we see Elijah terrified and running for his life! It is easy for us to give Eli the big eye roll here, but how often do we forget to be captivated by the miracles we have seen in our lives as soon as our circumstances turn south?

I love the story of Elijah because he makes us all feel human. I also appreciate the truth we can tuck away in our hearts about God. A common theme that I really believe God wants us to grasp from the pages of our Bibles is this: Our lack of faith or our depression or our _____ (fill in the blank with any human shortcoming) in the moment does not make us useless in the Kingdom. Let me make this even clearer. God has never and will never require us to be perfect. Before the beginning of time, the realization and solution to this problem was taken care of. What God wants is our heart and a total surrender to the reality that we cannot do this on our own. That’s it. Your pride will tell you that this is too high a price or that you are somehow giving up your freedom with this belief. But can I share a secret with you? One that someone on the other side of the leap can share with full confidence? Living a fully surrendered life is the most free kind of life there is. And the best part? This life is just the beginning. It will only get better from here (Earth), I promise!
Here is another piece of hope from Elijah. He goes back to truth about God. Although he has been known to slip into bouts of depression or hopelessness, he doesn’t stay there. He keeps fighting to be sure of God and His unmistakable power. That is what I want to encourage you with today. Going back to my story about the chiropractic conference. These men and women of the profession weren’t hearing these affirmations and being shocked to hear brand new information. They were being reminded of the passion they once had or the confidence they once possessed. We write to remember, and when you take time to write down truths about who God is or truths about who He says you are, you are able to be reminded. Even when your mind is so low, it can’t (on its own) remember, you can look at your journal or highlighted scriptures in your favorite Bible and you can speak truth over your heart.


Challenge: Write two truths about God and two truths about who He says you are in your journal or on a few index cards and read over them every day for a week. See if this begins to bring your mood up or your focus a little higher.

I am Worth It

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The school year is officially underway! My kids are all back in school, and I can feel Routine waking from her fun (yet seemingly) short summer slumber. She is easing back into our lives like as if she never left. As this season approached, I began making a mental list of the things I would like to do on a regular basis again—as well as reworked the logistics of things that were already happening in the summer, but now need to be at different times. As the mom of the house, it is easy to put everyone else’s schedule and needs in place and then wedge my hopes and dreams in the cracks of what’s left over. I actually bought into the lie that this was noble. I felt extremely guilty when I didn’t follow this sacred protocol. Like I was somehow betraying my fellow tribesman, my Christian Mamas. This leads me to share with you one of the biggest lessons I learned last year:

I am worth it. (And I don’t love my family less for following my passion).

Here is a lot of how last year played out for me. I saw the long hours stretch in front of me and thought, “Wow! I can write and clean house and visit with friends, and still have time to pursue ministry opportunities and be at peace and fully present when the kids get off the bus etc., etc., etc.”
The dream seemed so real and so doable. Except the first few weeks I thought “Well, self care obviously (coffee date with a friend scheduled every few days because I have several I haven’t seen since school let out). Then let’s catch up on this house—sheesh! these kids are pigs still for being gone 7 and a half hours a day! Now, oh gosh, soccer keeps us really busy, it is too hard to establish a routine now. I mean my evenings are crazy with these practices…blah, blah, blah.”

I could keep going but I think you get the point. It was one thing after another and before I realized, the year was nearly over and I hadn’t even given a small percentage of my time developing myself. This had happened little by little over the course of the last few years and I did just enough for myself to feel like I was getting attention, but the big things—the things that make me come alive—I put those off and now I realize it was out of fear.

Fear of not succeeding (and then I will have wasted time that could have been spent on family needs).
Fear of being judged for spending “too much” time on my projects (too much being a subjective thing that I am not sure could be literally defined).
Fear of putting myself out there (this is akin to not succeeding, but is more about being found out as having no talent as opposed to not hitting a particular mark).

So I stopped writing regularly for the “sake of my family” and hid under self protection. I am not hiding any more. I am not hoping to squeeze in a writing session sometime this week. I am also no longer going after success, approval or a following. I am writing for God—the very one who placed this desire in my heart. In reading Girl, Wash Your Face (Rachel Hollis) she says something to the effect that no-one else will want your dream as badly as you do. This wasn’t brand new information, but when I read that I instantly knew that a piece of my hangup was that I wanted my husband and my tribe to carry my dream for me at times. That is never going to happen. Sure they are supportive and they will encourage me, but if I am expecting them to carry my vision for me, it is DOA. Once I stopped looking at them to create the motivation to pursue my dream, I have had fresh vision. I have to be the one that mans this ship and runs wild after my dream. (and I say that with the assumption that I am first seeking God’s wisdom and His vision for me). When/if my husband or family has a qualm with what I am doing, I expect them to share that with me. I can’t be super proactive and hamper my efforts to appease them. We need to work together to strike a balance. But doing it without their input and before they have voiced concerns is a false humility and rooted in excuses.

Getting to this place has been freeing in ways I never expected. Now I can turn to God and let Him lead me to the next place of revelation. For me, I think I hear Him say to schedule the writing time and go with it…even if I am “not feeling it”. Furthermore, when I am not feeling it, I can lean in and unpack that a little bit, because there is a chance that little “not feeling it” could be a small fox coming to spoil the vine (bible reference…Solomon 2:15). I am a feeler and sometimes the enemy uses them to pull me—ever so slightly—away from what God wants for me. Taking a moment to pause and acknowledge the feeling takes most of its power away. Being willing to be honest with myself takes the rest away.

I am not sure what it is for you, but you have something that makes you come alive inside. Do you give it space in your life? Do you struggle to find it worthy of your consistent time? Why?

What is God Teaching You?

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This blog…it has been around for a while, but it is neglected as of late. As a matter of fact it has been 6 months since I have even looked at it. Forgive me. I would like to think that it will change for good this time and maybe it will, but I make no promises.

Last year this time I was embarking on a new chapter in my life and I was swimming in some pretty tough stuff. My entire life was turned upside down. I was entering a season of all three of my kids being in school all day. A year prior to that I was homeschooling my oldest and had my youngest home aside from preschool. Then we transitioned the older back to public school in January of 2017 and the youngest graduated from preschool that May, which led to everyone being poised to embark on elementary school in full force come August of 2017.

I give all of that backstory to say that the 2017-2018 school year taught me a lot about myself. I had time autonomy for the first time in a decade and really for the first time in my adult life. I ran into it thinking it was going to be an awakening of sorts, and it was, but not in the way I thought a year ago. Have you ever had decision paralysis? When you have so many options that you simply can’t choose and move forward? That was me. Too many hours in a day. Now before I unpack this, for those of you still living your moments of freedom between the hours of 9:15am and 1pm 2-3 days a week, hear me out. It will not always be like it is right now, and I would give you a slick party line about enjoying it while it lasts, but truth be told, you will and you won’t. Be kind to yourself for where you are. Enjoy the moments when you can, and hide in the pantry with a pint of Halo Top when you can’t. Grace upon grace.

So, I had too many hours. I was so overwhelmed with the windfall of hours I was give FIVE DAYS IN A ROW, EVERY WEEK (save those few tiny breaks between August and May) that I just didn’t know how to spend them. I then wrestled with how best to spend them and began frittering them away on little things that probably didn’t amount to anything. I did this so much that when added together, those hours could have produced the next great American novel (or at least the page number equivalent). I let mom guilt, unreal expectations, and lies that “I am not worth the time it takes to pursue a personal dream” steal so. many. hours.

Again, if you are reading this, it is not a call to feel guilty about what you have or have not accomplished. This goes much deeper than that. It is about leaning in and asking God what I am supposed to be doing and actually doing it. I sent a lot of time examining myself and my habits over the last 12 months and I used this first year of freedom to do some personal maintenance. Let me share a few of the things I did/learned in the last year.

1.  I am worth it.

I learned that I have put myself on the back burner a lot while raising these kids. Some would call this a badge of honor as we mothers selflessly put our families above our own ambitions. On one hand I wholeheartedly agree. On the other I shake my head no. I am all for sacrifices for the family unit and going “all in” in some capacity while your kids are little, but how often do we put ourselves down while putting ourselves last? I started to gain weight over the last 3 years and I also quit writing regularly. If someone would have asked me why I would have hidden behind the family unit excuse. But the reality was I didn’t value myself enough to address these issues. Something I learned over the last year is that no one is going to want my dreams more than me. So I have to believe in them and go after them for me, and not wait for even my husband to validate them. Once God gives the thumbs up, I need to run like my hair is on fire. I need to value myself enough to put my feet in the direction of my dreams. No one else is going to give me the “golden permission” I have been waiting for. Make it work, figure it out. You are worth the effort it will take to achieve the thing that makes you come alive.

2. Time needs to be managed like money.

I will be the first to admit that I am terrible at budgeting. I HATE being a money micromanager. I cannot tell you how we have made it this far in life in the financial place we are in except that we are generous in the Kingdom and God has taken care of my stupid self. I am a deal hound and not prone to big purchases, but if it weren’t for my saver husband, we would probably be in trouble simply because I am so nonchalant with day to day spending. With that said, I see that God is showing me the value of managing this are better. Much like I let hours slip through my fingers by unmanaged minutes, I let dollars slip through in unmanaged cents. This is a piece of my personality I am still trying to understand and work with God to be renewed in. I wish I had more answers at this time, but acknowledging the problem is a step in the right direction. For now, the idea is that if I plan ahead how I will spend my time I can get more done and enjoy my relaxation time more. Right now this looks like spending some time each Sunday looking at the week ahead to understand which days will be busier than others. Then I also make a list of things to get done tomorrow. Each night I make a quick list of things I need to get done in my free time. (I believe once I get this down a little better, I can apply it to my budget and see a clearer picture of our finances from month to month…we shall see).

 

3.  Little goals are the key to big goals.

In addition to these big take aways of 2017-2018, I am seeing something new emerge for me. I often set BIG goals and get super overwhelmed with how to make July 26, 2018 Ashley do the things that January 17, 2019 needs to accomplish. I begin to crumble shortly after setting the goal and end up imploding and only bringing a portion of myself to the main event. Then I use my family or some other lame excuse as my reason for not accomplishing the goal. Not anymore. I am committed to the second step of making a big goal for myself: creating checkpoints and smaller goals. This is what has been missing in my life and what has kept me from writing that book, losing that weight, and putting myself out there in ministry. I think of the verse in Zechariah 4:10 that says:

Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.

Small beginnings are something I undervalue when my eyes are on the big prize and I am salivating at the idea of what it will feel like to accomplish it. However, I lose that lovin’ feelin’ in the mundane of the journey to get there. God has been pulling me back and making me aware of the beauty found in the journey. Make big goals, but consider them incomplete if you don’t also have a list of small goals that will contribute to the achievement. But don’t stop there, share them with someone who will cheer you on and hold you accountable. This is what makes it the most real.

 

Whew! You made it! And more surprisingly so did I. This post contains just a few of the lessons that God is teaching me. What is He teaching you? I’d love to know. If you think it’s nothing, than you just aren’t hearing Him. He is always teaching us something. Good Daddy’s keep the lessons coming to all who are eager to learn.

Making the Choice

I leave for Colorado tomorrow morning and today held a lot of promise. I had women’s group, a few small errands, and packing to do today before the kids got home from school. I had a plan…then we had a two-hour delay called. Okay, plan B it is. Then…the call came to cancel school. Well this was not what I had in mind! If I could backtrack a bit and explain that yesterday I had one of the most amazing experiences with God that I’ve had in a long time. I mean breakthrough was grasped and The Presence was evident! These kinds of experiences tend to shift my perspective for a while at least. So this morning when my whole day got hijacked, I took a breath and made a choice. I saw two ways of feeling and dealing with the situation. I decided to choose JOY and be thankful that I got to spend the day with my kids before leaving them for 4 days. Plus, all my essential errands were done and packing had already started. So instead of plan A or B, I embraced plan C and we hung out all morning and then went to the movies as a family over lunch. Making the choice to see the joy isn’t always that easy and I miss it more than I seize it, but the tide is shifting and I am gaining ground!

6 Tips for a Successful 21 Days of Prayer

The yearly 21 days of prayer is starting on Sunday. I know several who are participating because their church is running corporate gatherings each morning throughout the 21 days. I do not attend a church that does this, but I am still participating. So if you, like me either don’t have the availability to go to a church to participate corporately (my hubby works too early in the morning for me to make it there and back before he leaves), or you are not near a local church that holds meetings, you can participate at home! I find that it’s a great way to recharge your faith and put God first in your morning and in your year. 2018 is barely beginning and God has so much He can do in your life, but how much better will that be if you spend time purging the gunk that has distracted you from time with Him as well as things that have kept you from hearing His leading in your life? Or maybe you just want to go after the MORE. I use this phrase a lot with deeper believers because I firmly believe there is always more to be had with God. He is ever-increasing and we will never reach the end of Him on this side of Heaven. The promise of more is so fun!! If you are new to 21 days of prayer, I hope these tips will give you a glimpse into how it can be done (not a rule of thumb, just suggestions). If you have been doing it for a while, it will be fun to see how someone else goes about the hour of prayer. I would love to hear about your process and tips as I am always looking to shake things up.

1. Make a List


This past week, I have spent time reflecting on my previous year’s growth and where I’d like to be in a year. This is in regards to all aspects of my life: in my faith, in my church, as a wife and mother, and in my career. I start jotting down desires of my heart and people who I want to cover in prayer. I get specific in my list to help guide me during the time of prayer as I have “Mental Squirrel Syndrome” and I need points to pray through. This will also help me to connect my prayers with God’s provision. This also serves as a vision board of sorts. You don’t have to stop praying through this after the 21 days. Heck, you can add to it and cross things off all year long!

2. Choose a Spot and Prepare the Space


I think this is one of my biggest pieces of advice for those who are starting a morning prayer routine for the first time. I liken this to setting your workout clothes out the night before. You have to do the little prep work to make you mornin go easier. Nothing steals your joy and frustrates more quickly than hitting obstacles before you even begin. So find your headphones, blanket, journal, devotional or bible and put it my the chair you plan to sit in before you go to bed. This makes getting up and being present a short task (and that means you get that extra 10 minutes of sleep).

3. Choose a Time


I don’t have to explain why this is important. Anything that we want to make a priority needs to be scheduled. Whether you put it in your calendar or not, you need to plan to be up at a certain time. If you are choosing to participate with a church, they do live stream, but you have to be up and ready at 6 or 7 (depending which church you choose). One is not holier than the other, so choose what you think you can stick with–or the one you feel called to. I am doing 6 because I know I will not be bothered (for the most part) between 6-7.

4. Put Together a Worship Set


If this is not your thing, you can livestream with one of the churches (listed below) and they will take care of that for you. You can also use a spotify list that someone else put together. If you, like me, connect heavily with music, you may want a soundtrack of sorts that you create yourself. Put it together ahead of time.

5. Come Expecting BIG Things


One of the greater obstacles that I believe we as believers struggle with is doubt. Sure we believe in our eternal salvation in Christ, but somewhere along the line we started believing that going after the extraordinary and the supernatural was beyond the realm of possibility for the average Christian. Like it was reserved for Super Christians or something (a mythical realm of people by the way). You can go after more of Him no matter who you are. And ultimately, at the end of this 21 days I hope you have a greater sense of Him above all else. Above any and all prayers that He will answer, I hope you get overwhelmed by HIS Presence. He is Emmanuel, God with us. Letting Him occupy more of your life will ALWAYS be good–answered prayers aside.

6. Fasting


Some of you may choose to fast something from your life during the 21 days. This can be a great way of re-calibrating your life in areas of food, shopping, social media, TV watching, coffee consumption, or really anything that has gotten out of hand. I am not your Holy Spirit so I won’t tell you if you need to fast or what you need to fast, but it does ramp up the intensity of this time of prayer.  I won’t go into detail with all the ins and outs of fasting but there are great resources out there if this is one area you want to pair with the prayer time.

 

Resources:

Itown Church Livestream

Church of the Highlands Livestream

Fasting For Beginners

 

 

21 Days

This is the theme of my 21 Days of Prayer. I want to build my hunger for Him and saturate my heart with His love.

Statistically speaking, it takes 21 days to form (or break) a habit…anecdotally speaking, it can take forever ?.

If you saw my video on my Facebook page, I invited everyone to participate in a thing called 21 Days of Prayer. I first heard of this at a church I attended previously. We were invited to join together corporately for an hour at the church at 6am each weekday and at 9 on Saturdays for 21 days. They did a brief devotion together and sang a few songs from the stage. Then the remaining time was spent in individual prayer time. The music was on and loud so that everyone could pray in various ways. Some would pace others would sit. Some would pray aloud, others silently. The energy of being physically together was worth the drive in the bitter cold before the sun rose. However, they also offered for you to stream the prayer service online if you weren’t able to make it in person.

Since encountering this practice, I have adopted it as my own. It has always proven to be a powerful time in my relationship with God. I grow in surprising ways and am usually blown away by how he answers my prayers.

Tomorrow I will post my tips for a successful 21 Days. I hope that you will consider joining me and thousands of other believers as we commit 2018 to God and all He has for us: both as a Church body and the individual. The days are 1/7-1/27 and some will also choose to fast something during that time.

And So it Begins…

They have been home from school for 1 hour and 38 minutes and they have argued for half of that time. Nothing major and honestly they were only arguing they weren’t even fighting or running after each other. But as I was making dinner, I started getting annoyed and feeling my joy melt like a snowman on a sunny day.

Isn’t it funny how we build things up in our minds? Like they were going to act any other way today. They all just had school parties and are buzzing from the excitement of Christmas being less than a week away. I decided to remind myself that they will probably have a re-entry period over then next few days and then we will have Christmas to enjoy. This time will go so fast, and I can’t let a bad attitude on my part be the thing that steals my joy.

I pray that when your break begins you are able to stay connected to the things that matter and not get lost in the little disappointments or unmet expectations. We have a great deal of influence in our circumstances simply by choosing the most life-giving perspective.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY WINTER BREAK (for all my parents-of-school-age-kid readers).

Tis the Season!

This is the season of so many things. I often find myself saying “tis the season,” when someone mentions something that occurs frequently in this time of year. Colds, school programs, buying tons of presents, creating to-do lists for all those little errands that need to be run before the kids get out for Christmas Break…

But it is also the season of the arrival of the Prince of Peace (I know he was not actually born this time of year…but another post for another time). Let us honor Him by practicing peace. Peace is not a by-product of our settled circumstances, but rather an intentional state of being. Peace in my heart, because my full existence is not tethered to anything in this temporary world. Peace in my actions because I am not drawing solely from my own strength. Peace in my words because I choose them and they carry with them the power to bring life or death.

Celebrate the Prince of Peace each day with an act of peace!